Coaching the Whole Athlete
What Every Youth Coach Needs to Know About Anxiety, Identity, and the Child Behind the Jersey
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Your athletes don't leave their lives at the gym door.
They bring their fears, their family dynamics, their history of being told they are enough — or not. They bring performance anxiety that looks like attitude. Learning differences that look like laziness. Trauma that looks like disrespect. And they bring an unspoken question they are asking every single practice: Does this coach see me?
Coaching the Whole Athlete is the guide that answers that question with your behavior, not just your words.
Written for coaches across every sport and every level, this book gives you the research, the language, and the practical tools to build an environment where athletes don't just perform — they develop. Where mistakes become information instead of verdicts. Where the relationship between coach and athlete is strong enough to survive a hard season and meaningful enough to last a lifetime.
Inside, you'll find:
What performance anxiety actually looks like from your side of the court or field — and why the athlete who freezes, withdraws, or pushes back is almost never doing what you think they are
The difference between rumination, anticipatory anxiety, and catastrophizing — and a distinct coaching response for each
Why the mistake bench produces more fearful athletes, not more careful ones — with evidence-backed examples that will make you rethink your substitution decisions
The burnout-overuse injury connection that most coaches never learn: how psychological stress depletes the same recovery budget as physical training
What labels do to a developing brain, and a conversion guide that turns every label into an instruction the athlete can actually use
Why benching a player in silence after a mistake costs more than the mistake ever did — and what thirty seconds of explanation changes
The developmental roadmap for coaching ages 6 through 18, with specific tools for each stage
How to have the conversation when it's more than sports — including the moment an athlete says they want to quit
The full When Winning Hurts framework for examining and shifting your program's culture
This is the third book in the Whole Village series from Mon Amie's Solutions — alongside The Anxious Athlete (the athlete's workbook) and Raising the Anxious Athlete (the parent's guide). Same story. Three angles. One goal: every young athlete surrounded by adults who know better and do better because of it.
The village includes everyone. That includes you.
About the Author
Amy B. Ogunyemi is a psychoeducator, author, advocate, and Founder of Mon Amie's Solutions, L3C. As a parent of three student athletes and spouse to a youth coach, she writes from inside this world — not above it.
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Print single-sided or double-sided (double-sided saves paper)
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At a print shop, select "Fit to page" and letter size
Bind it, spiral it, or drop it in a binder — keep it in your coaching bag
Questions? Contact amy@monamiessolutions.com
Coaching the Whole Athlete
What Every Youth Coach Needs to Know About Anxiety, Identity, and the Child Behind the Jersey
— Digital Download —
Your athletes don't leave their lives at the gym door.
They bring their fears, their family dynamics, their history of being told they are enough — or not. They bring performance anxiety that looks like attitude. Learning differences that look like laziness. Trauma that looks like disrespect. And they bring an unspoken question they are asking every single practice: Does this coach see me?
Coaching the Whole Athlete is the guide that answers that question with your behavior, not just your words.
Written for coaches across every sport and every level, this book gives you the research, the language, and the practical tools to build an environment where athletes don't just perform — they develop. Where mistakes become information instead of verdicts. Where the relationship between coach and athlete is strong enough to survive a hard season and meaningful enough to last a lifetime.
Inside, you'll find:
What performance anxiety actually looks like from your side of the court or field — and why the athlete who freezes, withdraws, or pushes back is almost never doing what you think they are
The difference between rumination, anticipatory anxiety, and catastrophizing — and a distinct coaching response for each
Why the mistake bench produces more fearful athletes, not more careful ones — with evidence-backed examples that will make you rethink your substitution decisions
The burnout-overuse injury connection that most coaches never learn: how psychological stress depletes the same recovery budget as physical training
What labels do to a developing brain, and a conversion guide that turns every label into an instruction the athlete can actually use
Why benching a player in silence after a mistake costs more than the mistake ever did — and what thirty seconds of explanation changes
The developmental roadmap for coaching ages 6 through 18, with specific tools for each stage
How to have the conversation when it's more than sports — including the moment an athlete says they want to quit
The full When Winning Hurts framework for examining and shifting your program's culture
This is the third book in the Whole Village series from Mon Amie's Solutions — alongside The Anxious Athlete (the athlete's workbook) and Raising the Anxious Athlete (the parent's guide). Same story. Three angles. One goal: every young athlete surrounded by adults who know better and do better because of it.
The village includes everyone. That includes you.
About the Author
Amy B. Ogunyemi is a psychoeducator, author, advocate, and Founder of Mon Amie's Solutions, L3C. As a parent of three student athletes and spouse to a youth coach, she writes from inside this world — not above it.
📥 Your Digital Download — Instant Access
Your PDF is formatted at 8.5" × 11" for easy home or copy-center printing.
Print single-sided or double-sided (double-sided saves paper)
Prints clearly in black and white or color
At a print shop, select "Fit to page" and letter size
Bind it, spiral it, or drop it in a binder — keep it in your coaching bag
Questions? Contact amy@monamiessolutions.com
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